Ending your marriage is a decision that impacts you and your children. The focus of your days between the decision date and the finalization of the divorce is trying to make things as easy as possible. One of the most taxing aspects is working out the specifics of the split with your ex.
There are many things that you will have to work through. Going into the situation with the determination to make it work is beneficial. This is especially true if you do have children who will have to learn to live in two homes. Here are some tips to help encourage a friendly divorce:
Remember that you are individuals
You and your ex aren't going to see everything in the same manner. You must remember that each adult is one's own person. Not expecting your ex to always find your solutions agreeable can help to keep your stress level down. You must be willing to compromise in divorce. Not only will this reduce the tension, it can minimize the duration of the divorce process.
Find your peace
Think about what you can do to remain calm if your ex is trying to get on your nerves. Being able to remain peaceful expedites negotiations because you aren't getting into a verbal battle with your ex. This can also help you to cope with being a single parent when things get difficult.
Work together for the children
Even if you and your ex aren't together, you will need to present a united front to the children. This prevents them from trying to pit one parent against the other. Discuss the decision-making powers with your ex so that each person knows what they are responsible for. Be willing to back your ex up on the decisions they make so that the children know you stand together. Your ex should do the same for you.
Have the right attitude
When your marriage is over, you need to have the right attitude despite the life upheaval. Thinking that things will be difficult and expecting the worst will often lead to that. Instead, think about what you can do to make things easier and try to remain positive throughout the process. You can set a good precedent for the future of your custody issue.