Even though a couple in Michigan may agree that they want an amicable divorce, when spouses sit down to discuss the details, they may find it more difficult than they thought to keep conflict to a minimum. According to The Huffington Post, there are many things people can do to make their divorce negotiations easier.
The goal for the agreement is a fair division of marital property, and most spouses probably already have a general idea of what that means to them on a personal level. However, if their wants and needs are not clearly defined, they may not really understand how to apply the concept to their negotiation. Completing inventories, financial statements and personal budgets beforehand can speed the process and possibly cut out much of the potential for arguments.
The American Bar Association warns that although notes may be helpful for staying on track, having things in writing could backfire. They could be perceived as an agreement that is binding if there is a signature, so it is important not to sign them.
For a smoother meeting, spouses should get together at a comfortable but completely neutral location where family members, phone calls or other distractions will not interrupt them. It may be best to divide the negotiations into topic-specific sessions with hours or days between each.
Agreeing on an agenda ahead of time may help, but if emotions run high, both should be willing to take a break or reschedule. Many couples who are uncertain about their ability to cooperate meet with a professional mediator who is skilled at facilitating such agreements.