When a couple divorces in Michigan, the parties must determine many things, including whether or not there will be any alimony or child support payments. When there are children involved, they often do as much as possible to reduce the impact on the children. This typically involves trying to get through the divorce as amicably as possible. A recent study found that whether or not the divorce was amicable did not significantly make a difference on the impact on children, according to Woman'sDay.
There are several well-known consequences of divorce on children. It is more common for children of divorce to deal with depression or anxiety. They might also get involved with drugs or exhibit behavior problems. Additionally, children of divorce more often do poorly in school than their counterparts.
Although an amicable divorce ultimately does have its benefits over a more contentious one, it has its own consequences, according to Psych Central. When parents appear to still get along, children become more confused over their decision to leave than if they continually witness fights or tension. This makes the divorce more of a shock and could make it harder for them to learn to accept it. This leads to children trying to find an answer to their confusion. This might mean that they will decide that one parent should be at fault for the divorce and start to act on that belief.
Children might also work hard to get their parents back together either through threatening to run away or take other negative actions to make it happen, such as sabotaging new relationships. It is also easy for children to start to blame themselves or worry that one or both of the parents will decide to leave them. Working together to support the children, talk through the divorce and consequences, and accommodate the needs of the children will help to overcome many of these issues.