Children are often vulnerable to emotional trauma when they are exposed to parental conflict during and after a divorce in Michigan. Many parents attempt to alleviate this by seeking family and individual therapy and by hiding the conflict between them as much as possible. However, according to Psychology Today, there are other steps that may be in the child’s best interests, as well.
Parents who are able to cooperate are more likely to have a child who adjusts to the separation more smoothly. This includes working together on property division, support and custody issues to ensure an agreement that is fair for everyone. Talking about the divorce and the child’s feelings with love and without judgment also helps with the ability to cope and recover emotionally. However, it may be counterproductive to attempt to convince a child that the divorce is for the best, since this may seem to invalidate the child’s feelings.
When a child feels that the parents are no longer friends, this may be more disconcerting than the change in the relationship and living situation. Retaining or reinstating the friendship that was present during the good times of the marriage may be difficult for parents, though. In fact, Psychology Today notes that even when former spouses still have strong positive feelings towards each other, they may be repressed and denied because of the events leading up to the separation and divorce. Uncovering these and developing a healthy relationship is part of the healing process for the parents as well as the child.