The hard feelings that often accompany the end of a marriage in Clinton Township, Michigan, do not necessarily have to get in the way of the couple’s ability to parent their child. In fact, many are able to work out custody arrangements that allow each of them to maintain a healthy relationship with their son or daughter. Psychology Today points out that co-parenting – successfully sharing responsibilities – is an opportunity for the parents to focus on the best interests of the child rather than their problems with each other.
While ex-spouses may feel it is acceptable to badmouth each other, for parents, this should not be an option. Speaking to and about each other in a respectful manner is an essential part of effective parenting. The positive behaviors should carry over to friends and family members who are also a part of the child’s life. This helps to shield the child from any conflict the parents have between them. If they have difficulties maintaining civil conversations, they may want to conduct their interactions through emails or texts.
Some people may discover they are not able to communicate civilly, at least during the months immediately following a high conflict divorce. For these ex-spouses, Psychology Today recommends parallel parenting, a technique that further limits their contact with each other while allowing them to still fill their roles in their child’s life. They may choose to share relevant experiences with the child solely in writing, or ask a neutral third party to moderate discussions. This method may help parents to heal from the wounds of their relationship and eventually overcome their differences.